Over the break I conducted 2 sets of interviews, one with a couple that I found really interesting and insightful. This interview and reviewing it later really helped me gain empathy and insight, especially from the wife's point of view.
My summary of our conversation -
Kevin
- Hired to work 40 hours per week, currently doesn’t differ from what he actually works.
- His perfect evening after work is watching TV, exercising and having family dinner
- Perfect Sunday mornings consist of lie in bed, going out to a cafe, going for a walk with family.
- After a stressful day, he misses out on exercising because he is too tired/stressed to think about exercise and he misses out on a lot of down time and instead will spend time on the computer, sorting work stuff out and will go to bed without much time spent with family in-between work and bed.
- He often stays at his desk through lunch time and eats a piece of fruit at his desk, this is the normal thing at his work. Many of his colleagues will only take a lunch break if it’s to have a meeting over some food.
- He often feels that skipping his break makes his day more productive, and his break being skipped means that he doesn’t have to stay late or do work when he gets home. He feels he has made the most of his day at work and can relax when he arrives home.
- After he arrives home from a stressful time at the office, although he attempts to leave his work behind, he feels that his mind is often occupied with his work life, although it doesn’t disrupt his nightly routine, his wife and family tend to notice that he is distant or on edge.
- When trying to stop his work life playing on his mind, he likes to have a few drinks, go outside and exercise—most of which he does in the company of his family.
- He would recommend others to take regular breaks, forcing themselves away from work and to breathe and relax.
- His employer puts no effort into enforcing regular breaks, this results in many people staying late—Kevin used to do this however has realised that he would rather put his home life before his work life at this point.
- Kevin appreciates his time at home and cherishes time with family—he used to be in the habit of working over time, but has since put work further in the background to focus more on the parts of life that he feels are most important. He put extra work in when he was younger and this has benefitted his family financially.
Claire
- Claire is Kevin’s wife and she is employed by the same company under a different section. She is employed to work 37.5 hours per week and she generally works that exact amount of hours.
- Her ideal afternoon is watching TV, exercising and having family dinner.
- Perfect Sunday mornings consist of lie in bed, going out to a cafe, going for a walk with family.
- After a more full on day at the office, she comes home feeling pissed off and is less productive in her evening routine. She doesn’t get to exercise, doesn’t feel like cooking dinner and doesn’t feel like doing housework.
- Claire, along with her colleagues, never work over their breaks or past their finish times.
- Her breaks allow her to meet up with friends and family for lunch in town or just spend some alone time outside or on the internet. She feels this helps her productivity because after a break she feels that she can get back into her work with a fresher mind.
- However when work gets really busy it does linger on her mind when she tries to switch off from it, during these times she feels stressed for an unknown reason and she finds it difficult to get a good nights sleep.
- To forget about office stresses, she typically talks about what has happened at work with her friends and family members to get it off her chest, and she will take some alone time to exercise or read a book. She also enjoyed going out for a quiet drink or two with her family.
- Her work enforces office rules about not working through breaks and not staying late. Most people are forced to go home at 5pm and the power of her office floor is shut down after a certain time to ensure no one is working there late.
- As for when her husband is stressed at work, she feels it can affect her and her routines, as well as the rest of the family.
- She can tell when he has been under pressure at work, and when he has had to stay late at work, she tends not to cook dinner and to just make something small for herself. When they do sit down and have dinner together, he is distracted in conversations and his mind is elsewhere. He is disconnected.
- She sometimes thinks she might enjoy him staying late as she gets control of the TV remote while he is gone, but she can’t enjoy that time because she is pissed off that he is working so late again.
- She recalls that him working overtime would affect her family when they were younger, their children would refer to their dad and ‘nocturnal Dad’ because he would have to sleep during the day and work late at night